Cosmo got lucky when he started dating in later life. We met on the second first date he had. We both knew right away that this was it. He was done with first dates.
I had countless first dates and, like most people, they ranged from good to okay to horrible.
Even though Cosmo didn’t have as many first dates as I did, he understands as well as I do what an impact first dates have on you, and he writes about it often.
Here are 9 articles I’ve written about my first dates, and some lessons learned, so you won’t stumble as much as I did . . . followed by 7 articles about first dates written by Cosmo.
9 Articles About First Dates Over 60 From a Woman’s Perspective
If online dating feels alien to you or you’re afraid of it, I urge you to reconsider.
Go ahead and network with your friends and family to get dates, but also step into the online dating world.
Unless you have a very robust network of people who may know of people for you to date, online dating will probably provide many more prospects.
But before you dive in headlong, click on the link above and read my blog post.
Going into another first date, your hopes are high, your anticipation palpable. You hope she or he will be the one, so you can get off the dating merry-go-round.
You’ve planned what to wear and, if you’re smart, some things to discuss to break the ice.
But have you thought about what things you SHOULDN’T discuss on this first meeting?
In my 2 years’ dating experience, I was often amazed by what men came out with on our first date.
Read my post for some of the worst offenders I experienced.
Most of what you read about mature dating is negative.
Dating sites warn of all the mistakes people make and all the bad things that can happen.
Cosmo and I are as guilty as anyone. We write a lot about the negative aspects of dating, for both men and women over 60.
Our intentions are good. We’re trying to help others navigate the often rocky road of mature dating, and learn from the many mistakes we made.
But it’s good to look at the lighter side . . . at least once in a while.
So for a change, let’s have a little fun with dating, and keep the mood upbeat, as I tried always to do when I was in dating mode.
First dates can be stressful. It’s easy to be nervous and do dumb things. If there were enough good things going on during the date, I didn’t sweat the nagging little things.
But then there were the men who were just plain insensitive.
What really got to me was when they were so impulse-driven – or just ignorant – that they did what felt good to them . . . without caring if they overstepped and made me uncomfortable or creeped me out.
Here are 3 of the 5 dumb things some men do on first dates:
- Pressing the woman hard to go to dinner, when she suggests just going for coffee.
- Lashing into their ex at length.
- Taking out a list of questions and running down each one (I swear, this happened to me).
Read my post above for the other 2 things, and this post for more of the same, 3 Dumb Things Men Do On First Dates That Can Ruin Everything
Unless you’re very, very lucky and meet “the one” quickly, you’ll be doing a lot of dating.
And that’s okay. It’s good practice to go on lots of dates. It helps you get better at reading people and knowing who will or won’t be good for you.
Try not to set your hopes too high with each new date. Just think of it as getting to know another human being a little bit.
In my post, I offer a few things to plan for and think about, as you go on first dates, second dates and beyond.
You need to be mindful of various things to make your first dates more enjoyable, safe and successful.
Two smart first date tips include:
- Don’t rule someone out based on frivolous things but, at the same time, pay attention to your first impression of them.
- Drink very little alcohol, if any, on a first date.
Read my post for the other three.
Do you think the secret weapons have to do with something like dressing to kill? Or smelling good? Or meeting at the perfect location?
No. It’s much simpler than that.
Read my post to find out.
Early in my second dating go-round, I had a doomed, painful first-and-only date with a man I met on a dating site.
I’m not likely to ever forget it, because no other date made me feel so small.
I neglected to do something I now advise all people dating should do: Always trust your gut instinct about someone you’re dating.
In hindsight, I probably saw the signs that he wasn’t for me in the few emails and phone calls we exchanged before meeting. But I think I was still getting my dating sea legs. I too easily gave people the benefit of the doubt, even when I shouldn’t.
Read my post for all the gory details.
7 Articles About First Dates Over 60 From a Man’s Perspective
We’re firm believers in using a little introspection to improve your dating life. Yet not everyone is so inclined.
So for you guys that just want to get out there and date without too much thought, here are some old sayings that will probably keep you out of trouble. There’s usually a grain of truth to most clichés.
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression.”
“We marry our parents.”
Read the post for more sayings that ring true.
Sometimes a little laughter will lighten your load when you’re dating. A good laugh is restorative.
If you don’t believe me, take a few minutes to check out these funny worst date stories from some of our favorite TV sitcom characters of the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s.
Go to the post to see hilarious clips from shows like Everybody Loves Raymond, Frasier and The Golden Girls.
One of many good reasons to date mature women — they lie less frequently than women younger than 45. Men also lie less as they age. Perhaps that’s because as we mature, we generally accept who we are and we’re looking for people who will take us as we are. There just isn’t time for games and deception.
Nevertheless, lying in online dating profiles and on the first date or two is pervasive enough that we should remain mindful.
You may be surprised by the things women lie about. Check out the post for the details.
If you’re a man over 60, it’s quite possible you’re re-entering the dating scene after a death or divorce.
Perhaps it’s been many decades since you’ve been on a date.
Technology has evolved at warp speed. Online dating might feel like an impenetrable, puzzling world better left for millennials.
And where do you start these days with offline dating?
Read the post for plenty of sound advice about how to find and connect with the mature woman who could be your true love.
There are a number of simple, maybe obvious, things everyone should be mindful of, if they hope to turn first dates into second, third and fourth ones . . . and beyond.
Two of the simple tips Cosmo points out in this post are:
- The Importance of Self-Care
- Be Aware of Your Body Language
Read his post for 2 more.
Cosmo suggests in this article, and I agree, that it’s better not to drink at all on first dates.
He describes a first date of his that went wrong fast, because he didn’t trust his gut and say “no” to this date.
Read the post to learn what he learned from his poor dating decision-making.
How do first dates make you feel? Nervous and anxious or eager and excited.
Or is it a heady mix of many emotions? If you’re an introvert, like both Cosmo and me, you’ll tend to a little anxiety and nervousness. Meanwhile, extroverts relish the thought of a new first date.
Whatever your personality type, be aware of how it might change your dating behavior. For instance, an introvert might be even more reserved than normal when meeting someone new. An extrovert might be so driven by an adrenaline high that they overwhelm their date with non-stop story-telling.
In his post, Cosmo describes five easy ways you can improve your dating skills and make that first meeting a great one.